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Floral Replacements

Flower Alternatives

No Flowers, No Problem!

Weddings and flowers tend to go hand in hand, but if florals just ain’t your thing, don’t feel like it’s an absolute must have. There are tons of other options for you to consider using in place of all those pretty blooms. Bonus perk: flowers can be expensive so you may even save some money by thinking outside the box!

For Your Consideration:

Fake Flowers. A clear and easy alternative for real flowers.   If you want flowers but need them to be done in advance, last in any type of environment or just want to be able to keep them afterwards, fakes are a good option.

Wooden Accents. Not only should you consider swapping flowers with the super trendy sticks, twigs and branches you see on Pinterest, don’t stop there; consider other wooden accents like tree trunk slabs, carved flowers or figurines, or maybe even DIY pallet projects.

Candles.   Candlelight is super sweet, sexy and romantic …and perfect for a wedding. Ditch flowers for tealights, candle arrangements and pretty candlesticks. Get creative with the bridesmaids and use lanterns or pretty candlestick holders.

Paper Flowers. Lotsa options here… from DIY to Etsy, there are tons of ways to have paper flowers at your wedding. I love the ones made from the couple’s favorite books or music sheets from their favorite songs.

Seashells. Calling all beach brides! Making bouquets or arrangements out of seashells is so pretty and so perfect for a beach wedding (or beach wedding theme). Incorporate other ocean accents like silver dollars, sea glass or starfish!

Jewels. Want to glitz up your big day? Look into making a studded bouquet out out brooches, jewels or pearls. They’re absolutely stunning and help give your look a little extra sparkle.

Succulents. I love this floral replacement because it still is easy to arrange, but it gives your wedding day look a clean, crisp look. They make pretty bouquets, ethereal centerpieces, and cute wedding favors.

Feathers. Another fun and whimsical idea. Feathers are perfect for brides who want a bohemian feel. They’re a sweet addition to your wedding, and make seriously gorgeous bouquets. Just be sure to work with your event designer to make sure you’re using stunning feathers (not tacky boas or something better used for arts and crafts).

Need help pulling your flowerless vision together? Call me!

Love, Mrs. Newman

Not-So-Average Photobooths

Not So Average Photobooths

Fun Additions For Your Reception!

Picture perfect weddings are usually pretty high on the wish-list for most engaged couples, but cookie cutter weddings? Not so much.

It’s getting pretty easy to blindly follow the pact and have the stereotypical Pinterest wedding, so don’t forget to put your own personal spin on things.

One of my favorite ways to spice up your big day? Getting creative with your Photobooth (or switching it up altogether).

Here’s How:

Video Messages. Instead of photos, why not live video? A lot of videographers can set up a video station where guests can leave well wishes, recall fun memories, or maybe even record a funny (drunken?) dance for you to watch and laugh over.

Selfie Stations.   We are the selfie generation after all. Set up an iPad on a selfie stick and have a guest-operated photobooth. Or just provide the selfie stick and an Instagram hashtag.

Photo Apps. If you like the idea of seeing your event through your guest’s eyes, but want to make sure you have access to all the photos afterwards, look into wedding apps that cater to that.   Look into Wedding Snap, Wed Pics, or Capsule.

Dance Floor Cams. Staged photos are fun and all, but candid dance-floor pics make for great memories. Sure you could just have your photographer capture it, or you could set up cameras timed to go off every minute or so. Better yet, get a dance floor Go-Pro or two!

GreenScreen Photos. Replace regular run of the mill Photobooth pictures against a white background with just about anything you want. Greenscreen technology allows you to super impose your guests into any scene you want; pretty vineyards, famous stadiums, the top of Everest or specific moments in history.

Red Carpet Pics. Have all your guests photographed like a movie star on their way into your reception. Keep the fancy rec carpet and paparazzi like photos going through out the night too, for a fun spin to your wedding photos. So glam.

Drones. How techy of you! But for serious, aerial shots are amazing. So attach a camera to one and get some sweet footage from above.

Photo Frame Backdrop. Instead of having your guests crammed into a booth, or stationed in front of a plain backdrop, get creative with your Photobooth station. Get crafty and make your own with fun messages, pretty decorations or cut out frames for people to stand behind or pop through. So fun!

Love, Mrs. Newman

Aisle Game Strong

Aisle Game

Picture Perfect Paths To The Altar.

As a future bride-to-be, you’ve probably thought about that infamous walk down the aisle once or twice. Actually, even if you’re not engaged, you’ve probably at least dreamed about it.

For anyone wanting a little extra pizzazz, flair or romance, consider amping up your aisle. It’s going to be one of the most memorable walks of your life, might as well give it a little extra style.

The Cutest Aisle Ideas Out There

Rose Petals. Outside of just a sweet little flowergirl tossing rose petals, of course. Aisles lined with petals are stunning, and aisles completely covered from start to finish are drop dead gorgeous. Another fun twist, flower petal art; pretty patterns, swirly designs, or maybe your initials spelled out in petal. Yes, please.

Red Carpet. Super glam wedding? Roll out a pretty, plush red carpet. Nothing screams luxury like a red carpet so if it fits with your wedding vision go for it.   Just make sure you see it beforehand, obviously. There are lots of shades of red, so make sure the one you’re using is what you’re picturing in your mind.

Circle. Looking for something unique? Set up your ceremony chairs in a circle. Plant them around a small swirling aisle leading to the middle of the chairs where your altar will be set up. Not only is it a fun twist, it also lets you walk past every single guest, giving everyone a clear view of the bride.

Burlap. This trendy fabric is here to stay, which makes sense since it’s so pretty and super versatile. Burlap runners can fit a plethora of themes and styles, and the neutral color makes for a perfect blank canvas. Add some lace or flowers or tealights (fake ones, firey weddings aren’t ideal) to make it your own.

Reverse, Reverse. What about walking up the aisle instead of down? If your venue allows, or you’re setting up your ceremony in a vacant space, consider coming up the aisle from the opposite side, or from one of the sides. There are no rules to how you should set up. I’m not like those other event planners, I’m a cool event planner. (Mean Girls, anyone?)

Aisle Runners. One of the most under utilized linens from your rental companies.   See what options they have available for you. Get creative with existing runners by adding your own accents along the sides (such as flowers, lanterns or picture frames) ….or consider less traditional forms of runners, like maybe a handful of picnic blankets, plaid fabric or custom cut lace fabric.

Candles.   Ah candlelight, the epitome of romance.   Line your aisles with beautiful white candles. Just make sure the aisle is super wide, so that no one’s train gets anywhere close. Or, better yet, look into fake candles.   Nobody wants to add an ER visit to their wedding day.

Glitter.   Because who doesn’t want a little bit of glitz on their wedding day? Even if you don’t want a full-fledged glitter aisle, adding some shine in other ways is also a fun option.   Throw a little glitter/confetti around, or add some sheen via fabric choices like a sparkly chiffon or tulle chair embellishment lining the aisle.

Personalized. If you’re all about making your day your own, then personalizing your aisle is ideal for you.   Use some of the previous ideas, like writing out your initials in petals or lining the aisle in framed photographs. If you really want to go big, get your own custom runner made, or make your own by decorating, embroidering or writing messages on it before hand. Another cute option, creating a timeline to walk down on your way down the aisle and ending up at the altar where you’ll start your new life together.

Stairs. Another fun twist to changing up the traditional aisle. Coming down the stairs is such a romantic notion; there’s a reason the “stairs entrance” makes an appearance in so many books and movies. Consider a venue that has a staircase for you to descend either as your aisle or right before one.

Love, Mrs. Newman

Bad Etiquette: How To Be The Worst

Bad Etiquette

…In The Least Rude Way Possible.

In weddings, and in life in general, there are about a million faux pas and etiquette no-no’s. So many rules and so many ways to break them.

I’m not a huge traditionalist, but I am pretty set on not being an asshole when I can avoid it. But the truth is that everyone’s going to make a mistake at some point in their life.

So when things come up, and you’re put in a position where you’re going to be the one making a social blunder, there are ways to be “that person” in the best way possible.

Step One. Do everything in your power to avoid that social suicide thing that you’re thinking about doing. Step Two. Recognize that the thing you know you shouldn’t do but you’re doing anyways actually kind of makes you an asshole. Step Three. Scrutinize the situation until you figure out how to best rectify your faux pas, and come up with a plan b or consolation prize of sorts. Step Four. Apologize, grovel and follow through with whatever you promised you’d do to make up for it.  Step Five. Let it go, move on and stop making yourself feel bad.

So, do you have something particular going on that you’re stressing over? I thought so.

Here are some wedding-specific problems you might run into, and how to handle them.

Losing Your RSVP. So you know you got the wedding invitation, but where it scampered off to is beyond you. Handle It Best By: Asking a friend or family member that you know for sure was also invited, and ask them what kind of response card it was and if it had meal choices. Mail the couple a note with your response and any other information they had on requested on it, along with a hand written apology for misplacing their invite. Add your reason for losing it if it’s a good one, otherwise don’t and just say you’re sorry.

Changing Your RSVP To Yes. Plans changed and now all of a sudden you’re available for the nuptials, but you already sent in your regrets. Handle It Best By: Contacting the couple if it’s before the response date – that one isn’t really a big deal. If it’s after the reply date, call (don’t text) whomever in the relationship you are closer with.   Give them an easy out by leading with how you don’t expect them to cater to your schedule change, but if it doesn’t cause a problem you would love to come.   If it’s within a week of the wedding, don’t ask.

Changing Your RSVP To No. Listen, life happens. Sometimes things out of your control come up.   Handle It Best By: Giving as much notice as possible. The second you realize you aren’t going to make it get on the phone and let them know. If you’re important enough to be invited, they warrant an explanation as to why your RSVP changed. And it needs to be a good one.   It may seem like a minor infraction to you, but missing one of the most of important days of their life requires an exceptionally valid excuse, an abundance of apologies and a larger-than-usual wedding gift.

B List Invites. You have all of your response cards back, and you have some back-burner friends that you all of a sudden have room for. Handle It Best By: Being honest about what you’re doing; no one likes being deceived.   Don’t just send out a second round of invitations.   Have a conversation about what’s going on and if they’re receptive to you then you can give them a formal invitation and response card. I would lead with something like “we really wanted to give all of our family members a chance to come first, but with the location/travel/time of year, it looks like we have room to also include some of our close friends.” Blah, blah, butter them up type of thing.

Arriving Late. A wedding is a good time to arrive early. But, for whatever reason, your ETA is five minutes after the ceremony starts. Handle It Best By: Waiting in the wings until you can make a subtle entrance.   There will probably be an event coordinator of some sort around to tell you when you’re clear to slip in quietly. Sit in the first seat available and stay in the back. Entering a ceremony late, loud and as a distraction is not fashionable it’s rude. Be quiet and try to blend in. If you’re going to be really late, skip the ceremony and meet everyone at the reception. On the bright side, you’ll be the first one in line at the cocktail hour.

Thank You Notes. They’ve been out of sight and out of mind since the shower or wedding, so now they’re way late, or even worse, you waited so long that you don’t have a good record of who gave what anymore. Handle It Best By: Sending them out ASAP, even if they’re already way behind schedule. They don’t say better late than never for nothing. Not sure who gave what? Go with generic thank you notes, because that’s better than nothing at all. Make a list of VIPs, and make sure you write those people heart-felt notes, and maybe acknowledge your tardiness followed by some gushing over whatever they gave you. Most people can be won over with compliments, and now is a great time to try.

Ditching A Bach Party or Bridal Shower. For whatever reason, you just aren’t going to make it anymore. Handle It Best By: Speaking directly with the MOH or whoever is doing the party planning. Let them know what’s up, and be short and sweet. They have a lot on their plate already so tell them why you can’t make it and then let them get back to making their arrangements. If they prepaid for anything, make sure you pony up for your share. Send along or drop off your gift/contribution if you can, otherwise send it after the fact. It’s a forgivable expense if you cover your bases.   Send a quick apology to the bride, and if she gets mad, let her. It’ll pass and if you’re sincere with your apology it’ll blow over.

Low Budget Gifts. Cuz you’re poor and you can hardly afford your own groceries sometimes. Been there. Handle It Best By: Getting creative. Sometimes the best gifts are homemade. Look up some of the DIYs on Pinterest or handmade gifts on Etsy and see what you can get together on a budget. Small and meaningful doesn’t always equal expensive. If you find something meaningful that you know they’ll like, go that route. If you don’t, or it’s just not a couple that you feel comfortable giving a DIY gift to, wait it out. You technically have a year to send a gift. So if it’s just not a good time, you’re better off waiting/saving a month or two and sending after the fact.

Bridal Party Line Up Changes. Sometimes relationships and people change, and you have to adapt to reality. Best to get out of a sticky situation before your big day, instead of suffering through negative energy at your wedding. Handle It Best By: Ripping the band-aid off. Don’t make any hasty decisions, but if you and your future partner are on the same page about it and have given it some serious thought, go ahead and pull the plug on a toxic bridal party member.   Explain why you think it’s better if they’re a guest instead of a bridesmaid or groomsman, and make sure you still include them in things along the way to help soften the blow.  Whether they decide to participate going forward is on them. If they’re upset, let them be upset. If it’s best for you and your partner and your wedding experience, it’s the right choice. This too shall pass.

Love, Mrs. Newman

Anniversary Gift Guide

Anniversary Gifts

Traditional Gifts By Year And What Exactly To Buy.

Wedding Anniversary coming up?  Me too!  Actually it’s today, June 1st, AKA the happiest day on Earth.  To me anyways.

Moving on, I love the idea of following traditional anniversary guides, so for the past three years I’ve always tried to work off of what the traditional gift for each is.

It’s fun, and it gives you a good starting point, but some of them are a little weird, at best, and others are just downright hard to apply to modern life (and men).  So, to help a girl out, I’ve made my own list of traditional gifts, along with some real life ideas to ponder.

I must say, however, that you may have to go rogue.  For instance, if your hubby tends to get you lavish gifts, then giving him a bag of candy for your sixth anniversary won’t suffice.  So get him his favorite sweets, but also get him something else.  A tangible gift, or something to do together.  If the  pre-determined gift of the year won’t be enough, add dinner, a couple’s massage or his favorite dessert to the line up.

And also, don’t save lingerie for only years 12 and 13.  Step up your game with some steamy anniversary lovin’ every year, please.  Like a lady.

So without further ado, here’s my Traditional Gift Recap!

Anniversary Gift Guide

First – Paper

Maps. A big world map where you can pinpoint your travels together or smaller framed maps that highlight where you met, live or got married.

Second – Cotton

Linens. Think fun pillow cases, throw pillows with your wedding song lyrics embroidered on, or a personalized throw blanket or quilt.

Third – Leather

Accessories. A leather banded watch, new shoes, a belt. Maybe a new wallet, money clip or passport holder.

Fourth – Fruits or Flowers

Plants, obviously.   Go with floral arrangements similar to your wedding, or if you want something long-lasting, buy a tree or bush to plant at your home.

Fifth – Wood

Pretty Décor. A keepsake box or carved wooden sign with your name or wedding date. Consider any type of housewares they might need, like a bookcase, shelves, or cutting boards.

Sixth – Candy

Sweets! Whatever your hunny’s favorites are, load them up with some sugar.

Seventh – Wool

Clothing or Blankies. Maybe some socks to keep their feet warm after all these years, or a sweater if it fits their tastes. Otherwise try a nice snuggly blanket to cuddle under.

Eighth – Pottery

Plates, Mugs, Dishes.   If not for the kitchen, maybe try a decorative plate or jewelry dish. Add a sweet or sentimental note to make it a little more romantic.

Ninth – Wicker or Willow

Something woven.   A pretty picnic basket set is a perfect gift and turns into a perfect date, too.

Tenth – Tin

Cans. Even if the tin cans hold a different gift altogether, they still fit the bill. New tin coffee cans are good for the java lover, or get creative and turn them into a holder for something else (candy, mints, cigars…)

Eleventh – Steel

Jewelry. Anything stainless steel works, from cufflinks to watches to chains, even keychains or pocketwatches. Lotsa options with this one.

Twelfth – Silk

Linens. Sheets, scarves, maybe some pajamas. My favorite, something silky and sexy, fun lingerie!

Thirteenth – Lace

Lingerie. Yeah. Just lingerie.

Fourteenth – Ivory

Anything Off White. I’m not big into the whole poaching/hunting/killing of animals thing, so I can’t contribute an idea of an actual ivory gift. But it’s a pretty color to go with for house décor, luggage or clothing (lingerie).

Fifteenth – Crystal

Barware. Champagne glasses, tumblers, decanters, wine stoppers. Whatever you get, use to celebrate with and get drunk together.

Twentieth – China

Plates, I guess. But if don’t think new fine china is gonna go over great, look for specialized china, like a monogrammed plate or personalized decorative piece.

Twenty-Fifth – Silver

Jewelry. So, so many options. Engraved watches are one of my favorites, but anything goes. Cufflinks, key-chains, money clips.

Fiftieth – Gold

Tons of Options. Not just jewelry, but pieces for the home, like a clock, frame, globe or décor. Better yet, throw a gold themed anniversary party, because fifty years of marriage is AMAZING.

Love, Mrs. Newman

2016 First Dance Songs

2016 First Dance Songs

Ten Pretty Picks For You To Consider.

Die A Happy Man by Thomas Rhett

Just The Way You Are by Bruno Mars

Head Over Boots by Jon Pardi

I Don’t Dance by Lee Brice

Best Of Me by Michael Bublé

Your Song by Ellie Goulding

H.O.L.Y. by Florida Georgia Line

Sparks by Coldplay

All Of Me by John Legend

Make You Feel My Love by Adele

Love, Mrs. Newman

Wedding Traditions & Their Origins

Tradition Origins

The Crazy Reasons Behind Our Wedding Traditions.

Have you ever wondered why we do the things we do? Wonder why we follow certain traditions? Wedding ceremonies are built off old traditions, and even some of the least old-fashioned weddings are still center around old ways …you just might not even realize it.

So do you wanna know some of the origins of typical wedding traditions?

Here are some of the coolest, weirdest and borderline scary reasons behind some parts of your big day.

Rings. Most people know that the wedding ring is worn on the left ring finger because it’s the only finger with the “love vein”, or a vein that runs straight up to the heart. But originally “wedding rings” were woven bands that were worn on ancient Egyptian brides, and they were worn around their wrists and ankles.  There’s still debate over whether or not these original wedding rings were actually shackles, since a lot of brides were taken against their will.  And as far as traditional wedding rings on the hands, they weren’t worn until somewhere around 1000 BC, to help display “ownership” of the woman.

Flowers. So, like, flowers are obviously pretty and romantic and decorative, but the original reason flowers were used in weddings is actually really gross. Flower arrangements in the olden days utilized spices, herbs and the strongest smelling blooms the bride’s family could find to help mask the odor of the bride. Because most weddings took place in the spring and summer, and hygiene wasn’t really a thing back then or something, most women smelled especially gross when it was hot outside, so bouquets and floral arrangements helped mask it.

Wedding Party.  This one’s kind of funny.  Way back when, a lot of marriages happened after the groom successfully kidnapped his bride (ah, romance).   A groom’s wedding party was actually his own mini army, or the people who would ensure he got away with the girl. And the bridesmaids? They were actually decoy brides ….in case anyone tried to steal the girl back, it would be harder for them to tell which one she was. Yeah. Take it all in.  So the original groomsmen were guys that had the groom’s back, just like today, but the bridesmaids consisted of women also on team-groom. My inner feminist is raging.

Veils. The origin of veils isn’t terribly out there, but it is a little comical. Essentially veils were used to keep grooms in arranged marriages from seeing his bride until after they were pronounced man and wife. The kicker is that they used really thick veils, sometimes even almost opaque so that the guy wouldn’t be deterred from marrying her if she wasn’t, you know, nice looking.   And if she ended up being a particular breed of hideous, it would be too late for him to do anything at the unveiling part of the ceremony.

Diamonds. We already discussed how wedding rings began, but an engagement ring, specifically one with a diamond, can be chalked up to medieval times when dowries for brides still existed. Rings with precious stones were used to help cover part of that dowry, and the ring was part of the groom’s proof of payment when his betrothed wore it around on her hand. So lets all thank the medieval dudes for getting something right as we stare down at the shiny diamonds we adorn on our left hands. Yes, I can be bought for a diamond.

Rice Tossing. Showering the new couple as they leave their ceremony or reception is definitely one of the oldest traditions out there, but did you know it didn’t start out as rice tossing, per se? Way back in the day it was considered good luck to throw food at the new couple, primarily bread or wheat based products because they signify fertility.   When brides got fed up with having food thrown at them on their wedding day (because, obviously) people started switching from tossing food to tossing rice or dried grains …still good luck but less obnoxious. Also, in case you haven’t noticed, most people don’t/shouldn’t throw rice any more because it hurts birdies. So toss-up something else to celebrate after your ceremony.

Honeymoons.  Honeymoons are amazing.   A solid week or two after you get married to relish in each other’s company and say bye-bye to the stress of wedding planning and hello to your blissful life together. But do you know why they started? It was actually when a newlywed couple would go into hiding together after the wedding, usually for a month, or a moon cycle.  This was thought to be enough time for anyone who had objections to the union to calm down and not kill either the bride and groom out of spite.  It was also a test of fertility, since one month should be enough time to make a baby.  Talk about pressure.  Regardless, the couple would retreat into a tent or cave and family members would deliver food and honey mead …hence the term “honeymoon”.   Nowadays couple still retreat into “hiding” and let other people cater to them, we just do it on beaches or at fabulous resorts.

White Dresses.   A lot of people think that brides wear white dresses because the white fabric signifies purity and virginity, which it does, technically, but that practice was adopted by the church only in the past two hundred years or so. The real reason white wedding dresses became popular was thanks to Queen Victoria in the 1840s, who started the fashion statement with her super glamorous silver and white gown. Before her, brides just wore the nicest dress they had and color was irrelevant. Between her fashion statement and the adaption that white equals virgin, white wedding dresses became a thing.

Bouquet & Garter Toss.   Another fun tradition stemming from the barbaric. In less civilized times, part of ancient wedding celebrations included the male guests ripping off pieces of the bride’s attire. It was considered good luck to bring home part of the poor girl’s ensemble, so guests would rip and tear pieces right off of her.   A lot of girls ended up next to naked before the party was over, at which point the lucky groom left to go, well, get lucky. Or in more accurate terms, rape his new wife. When weddings became less barbaric down the line, ripping clothes of the bride became taboo, so she would toss her bouquet and garter to help bring good luck to some of the party-goers but be able to leave with her pride in tact.

All in all, there’s a million things about wedding traditions that I bet you didn’t know. Some are funny, some are gross, and some are a little horrifying. Regardless, they’ve all shaped the way we get married today, which I find fascinating, so I hope you’re as entertained by these as I am.

Disclaimer: As a blogger I have the luxury to write and say whatever the eff I please, so take that in to account if you’re using this as a source of research. Everything compiled in this post I learned from Pinterest, other blogs, and miscellaneous articles, in addition to chatter from vendors and brides I’ve worked with along the way.   I am NOT a historian in any way shape or form (shocking, I know).

Love, Mrs. Newman

Living Together 101

Living Together 101

How To Move In Together And Not Hate It.

So, if you’re engaged, or have discussed getting engaged, there’s a decent chance that you either plan on moving in together soon (because test drives are important), you already live together (living in sin, like I did), or you’ll be moving in together as soon as you get hitched (you little angel).

Regardless, if you plan on moving in with your significant other, shits about to change for you.   Living together in the same space is an adjustment, and it can be hard. I mean it’s honestly just like having any other roommate except this one isn’t going anywhere anytime soon.   I bet eternity seems like kind of a long time now, doesn’t it.

Don’t totally panic about moving in together, because honestly, it’s going to be one of the best times in your life. But along with the eternal slumber party, breakfast and dinner dates, and long Sundays of Netflix binging together in bed, you’ll also encounter a few new quirks about your new “roomie”. Like their inability to do dishes, or that they fold all your clothes wrong, or that they leave wet towels on your bed (looking at you babe).

Luckily, moving in together can also be really, really fun.   But it doesn’t hurt to have a few helpful hints to make the transition easier.

My Advice For Living Together

Separate Bathrooms.   I know this isn’t always an option, but if it is, do it. Bathrooms get gross easily, and actually seeing each others grooming techniques isn’t always glamorous. Best to have some secrets in this department, in my opinion.   (Note: There won’t be many secrets along the road of a lengthy marriage, so you also need to be comfortable enough to laugh at each other when anything “gross” pops up…. in sickness and in health, remember?)

Separate Spaces. Also ideal if you can swing it, having your own space will help keep you sane. Whether it’s a man cave for him and an extra bedroom turned dressing room for you, try to have somewhere that is your own domain.   Even if you have a teensy apartment, a recliner for him and window seat for you will give you both a sense of having one place that’s all yours.

Alone Time. Same concept as above, but I’m talking about outside your home. You’re gonna need a breather from each other at some point, so having something that you do regularly on your own will help you keep some of your own identity, independent of your new co-dependent living arrangements.   And if you can schedule it on opposite days, you’ll both benefit from some alone time at home too (full control of the remote, yes please).

Candles.   Matches and candles are a couple’s best friend when you’re acclimating to being in each other’s business all the time. Sorry, but shit happens, literally. And boys can be smelly. Girls too I suppose.   So matches and candles and incense… yeah some of each in ALL bathrooms and any common areas.

Split Chores. I know this one might seem easy enough, but it’s actually worth a conversation. If the two of you can figure out who does what around the house, then its more likely that no one will feel overwhelmed or taken advantage of. Even if it’s not exactly even, if it’s an arrangement that you’ve both agreed works for your household, you’ll be better off. For instance; I do most of the cleaning around the house, but my husband has a list of chores that are completely on him – like vacuuming, taking out the trash, changing light bulbs, plunging toilets, fixing clogs, anything car related, pumping gas or walking the dog at night. Haven’t done a one of those in a few years now.

Two Demands. It probably won’t take long until you find the one or two things that drive you nuts about your partner. Shoes in the middle of the room? Dirty dishes in the sink? Wet f*cking towels on your bed? (Matthew.) And I hate to break it to you, but you probably also have a habit or two that they hate as well.   Make hard rules for these ones. Each pick your one thing that is an absolute no-no, and change your ways. Because, compromise.

Hooks & Hardware. Sometimes its just the littlest things that can drive each other crazy, like clothes all over the floor, or messy junk drawers, or even stacks of mail that get built up into never-ending piles. Whatever little things are bugging you, instead of nagging each other, find simple solutions. Put hooks up anywhere that things get thrown about, or add extra hampers wherever clothes get tossed on the floor. Get compartment organizers or drawer spacers to help keep things neat. Look into hanging up a cute mail holder on your wall. Instead of fighting over it, find organizational solutions that will resolve the problem before it turns into an argument.

Remember that this should be a fun and happy time, so if you stay positive and excited about it, chances are your relationship will stay positive and exciting too. Focus on all the fun parts, and enjoy your new adventure together.

I mean if you plan on marrying or spending your life with someone, then living together is a part of the deal. It’s fun to have your best friend by your side at the end of the day, and even better waking up to their face every morning. Don’t ever forget that!

Love, Mrs. Newman

Star Wars Weddings

Star Wars Wedding

Having The Force With You On Your Wedding Day.

Sorry, but as an avid Star Wars geek I couldn’t help but explore this wedding trend today! And also, May the Fourth be you, to all my fellow fans.

If you get online, or specifically on Pinterest, you’ll see that Star Wars weddings are actually more common than you think.  So if you find yourself toying with the idea of working it in somehow, you’re not alone.

Whether or not you’re seriously considering incorporating this mega movie franchise into your wedding, if you have any adoration for the series at all you can at least appreciate some of the following.

Fun Star Wars Wedding Ideas

Stars and Lighting. Go subtle with starry night lighting across the ceiling of your venue, or make the message clear by incorporating laser lights.

Hair. Obviously Leia-buns are a surefire way to express your love of the movies, especially if you’re already wearing all white. What groom doesn’t want his very own Princess Leia?

Outfits. If you’re going all in with a Star Wars Wedding, then you could totally rock some costumes. But if you’d prefer it be more subtle, look into Star Wars accessories instead; socks, ties, undershirts.

Cake Toppers.   Leia and Hans topping your cake? Perfect. Working in other Star Wars desserts? Even better! I’ve seen lightsaber pretzels and Leia cupcakes. Get creative!

Take-Aways. This one is another fun option that’s quirky but won’t take over your wedding. Consider sending guests home with Star Wars candy, those light up glow sticks or halos.

Décor. Even if your wedding isn’t themed out, you can still work in some understated details that highlight your favorite movie. Get creative with your table numbers, signage, place settings…

Grand Exit. Instead of a sparkler send off what about a lightsaber send off? Run out through your very own tunnel of lightsabers (or glowsticks).

Hidden Secrets. Maybe your love of Star Wars is more behind the scenes with the two of you. Choose something to surprise him or her with later; your garter or your lingerie, for instance.

Jewelry/Accessories. I’ve seen Star Wars cufflinks, buttons, and just about every type of jewelry imaginable. They really do make Star Wars themed everything, so if it suits you, wear it.

Photobooth Props. Never forget the photo ops! Get some Star Wars themed pictures by stacking your photobooth with all the necessary props.

Whatever it is that you want to work into your wedding, do it! Making your big day fit your own personal style is one of the best parts of wedding planning. So go on and get in touch with your inner Star Wars nerd.

Love, Mrs. Newman

Irish Weddings

Irish Weddings

Incorporating The Luck Of The Irish!

Are you wondering how to tie your Irish roots into your big day? Whether you’re Irish, part Irish or marrying into a big Irish family, here are the best ways to work your heritage’s wedding traditions into your wedding.

Irish Wedding Traditions

Horseshoes. They symbolize good luck, so add a pretty piece of jewelry with a horseshoe to your ensemble. Or consider adding a horseshoe pendent to your bouquets, garter or boutonnieres.

Six pence. This one is an old Irish tradition. Brides would wear a silver sixpence in their left shoe during the ceremony, which would supposedly lead to a marriage filled with happiness, joy and wealth.

Handfasting. Essentially this is a literal act of tying the knot.   The couple holds hands while the officiant wraps their hands in a pretty cord, signifying their new marriage and unity.

Bells. Incorporating bells into your wedding is supposed to bring good luck and harmony while fending off negative energy. There are tons of ways to work them in; think bouquets, centerpieces, décor or even strung up with hanging lights.

Wildflower Crowns. Traditionally brides getting married in Ireland didn’t wear veils, they wore flower headpieces made out of pretty wildflowers. Obviously I’m totally into the flower crown trend, but I love that it also is a tradition from my heritage.

Claddagh Rings. A more commonly known Irish tradition, but not always worked into weddings. A Claddagh Ring on the left ring finger with the heart pointed up towards your wrist signifies that you’re married. Even if you don’t want one as your wedding band, they’re still a pretty addition to your wedding day jewelry; worn on the right hand and pointed inwards still signifies that your heart is spoken for.

Braided Hair. Braids are another Irish staple, but what most people don’t realize is that they’re also supposed to bring good luck. Work a braid into your updo or consider a pretty Elsa braid on your big day. Another fun way to make your hair or maybe your bridesmaids’ more “Irish” is by incorporating Celtic Knots (see bottom right of header image).

Oathing Stones. This can be done a few different ways, so take a peek online or on Pinterest to find your favorite. I personally like when a couple places their hands together on a stone while reciting their vows, which is said to “set them in stone”. Another option is to have wedding guests hold onto stones during the ceremony and then collect them in a pretty vase or bowl afterwards to display in your own home.

Need more ideas on how to work your Irish roots into your wedding? Ask me! I’d love to help you work the luck of the Irish into your big day!

Love, Mrs. Newman