Love & Marriage

Bad Etiquette: How To Be The Worst

Bad Etiquette

…In The Least Rude Way Possible.

In weddings, and in life in general, there are about a million faux pas and etiquette no-no’s. So many rules and so many ways to break them.

I’m not a huge traditionalist, but I am pretty set on not being an asshole when I can avoid it. But the truth is that everyone’s going to make a mistake at some point in their life.

So when things come up, and you’re put in a position where you’re going to be the one making a social blunder, there are ways to be “that person” in the best way possible.

Step One. Do everything in your power to avoid that social suicide thing that you’re thinking about doing. Step Two. Recognize that the thing you know you shouldn’t do but you’re doing anyways actually kind of makes you an asshole. Step Three. Scrutinize the situation until you figure out how to best rectify your faux pas, and come up with a plan b or consolation prize of sorts. Step Four. Apologize, grovel and follow through with whatever you promised you’d do to make up for it.  Step Five. Let it go, move on and stop making yourself feel bad.

So, do you have something particular going on that you’re stressing over? I thought so.

Here are some wedding-specific problems you might run into, and how to handle them.

Losing Your RSVP. So you know you got the wedding invitation, but where it scampered off to is beyond you. Handle It Best By: Asking a friend or family member that you know for sure was also invited, and ask them what kind of response card it was and if it had meal choices. Mail the couple a note with your response and any other information they had on requested on it, along with a hand written apology for misplacing their invite. Add your reason for losing it if it’s a good one, otherwise don’t and just say you’re sorry.

Changing Your RSVP To Yes. Plans changed and now all of a sudden you’re available for the nuptials, but you already sent in your regrets. Handle It Best By: Contacting the couple if it’s before the response date – that one isn’t really a big deal. If it’s after the reply date, call (don’t text) whomever in the relationship you are closer with.   Give them an easy out by leading with how you don’t expect them to cater to your schedule change, but if it doesn’t cause a problem you would love to come.   If it’s within a week of the wedding, don’t ask.

Changing Your RSVP To No. Listen, life happens. Sometimes things out of your control come up.   Handle It Best By: Giving as much notice as possible. The second you realize you aren’t going to make it get on the phone and let them know. If you’re important enough to be invited, they warrant an explanation as to why your RSVP changed. And it needs to be a good one.   It may seem like a minor infraction to you, but missing one of the most of important days of their life requires an exceptionally valid excuse, an abundance of apologies and a larger-than-usual wedding gift.

B List Invites. You have all of your response cards back, and you have some back-burner friends that you all of a sudden have room for. Handle It Best By: Being honest about what you’re doing; no one likes being deceived.   Don’t just send out a second round of invitations.   Have a conversation about what’s going on and if they’re receptive to you then you can give them a formal invitation and response card. I would lead with something like “we really wanted to give all of our family members a chance to come first, but with the location/travel/time of year, it looks like we have room to also include some of our close friends.” Blah, blah, butter them up type of thing.

Arriving Late. A wedding is a good time to arrive early. But, for whatever reason, your ETA is five minutes after the ceremony starts. Handle It Best By: Waiting in the wings until you can make a subtle entrance.   There will probably be an event coordinator of some sort around to tell you when you’re clear to slip in quietly. Sit in the first seat available and stay in the back. Entering a ceremony late, loud and as a distraction is not fashionable it’s rude. Be quiet and try to blend in. If you’re going to be really late, skip the ceremony and meet everyone at the reception. On the bright side, you’ll be the first one in line at the cocktail hour.

Thank You Notes. They’ve been out of sight and out of mind since the shower or wedding, so now they’re way late, or even worse, you waited so long that you don’t have a good record of who gave what anymore. Handle It Best By: Sending them out ASAP, even if they’re already way behind schedule. They don’t say better late than never for nothing. Not sure who gave what? Go with generic thank you notes, because that’s better than nothing at all. Make a list of VIPs, and make sure you write those people heart-felt notes, and maybe acknowledge your tardiness followed by some gushing over whatever they gave you. Most people can be won over with compliments, and now is a great time to try.

Ditching A Bach Party or Bridal Shower. For whatever reason, you just aren’t going to make it anymore. Handle It Best By: Speaking directly with the MOH or whoever is doing the party planning. Let them know what’s up, and be short and sweet. They have a lot on their plate already so tell them why you can’t make it and then let them get back to making their arrangements. If they prepaid for anything, make sure you pony up for your share. Send along or drop off your gift/contribution if you can, otherwise send it after the fact. It’s a forgivable expense if you cover your bases.   Send a quick apology to the bride, and if she gets mad, let her. It’ll pass and if you’re sincere with your apology it’ll blow over.

Low Budget Gifts. Cuz you’re poor and you can hardly afford your own groceries sometimes. Been there. Handle It Best By: Getting creative. Sometimes the best gifts are homemade. Look up some of the DIYs on Pinterest or handmade gifts on Etsy and see what you can get together on a budget. Small and meaningful doesn’t always equal expensive. If you find something meaningful that you know they’ll like, go that route. If you don’t, or it’s just not a couple that you feel comfortable giving a DIY gift to, wait it out. You technically have a year to send a gift. So if it’s just not a good time, you’re better off waiting/saving a month or two and sending after the fact.

Bridal Party Line Up Changes. Sometimes relationships and people change, and you have to adapt to reality. Best to get out of a sticky situation before your big day, instead of suffering through negative energy at your wedding. Handle It Best By: Ripping the band-aid off. Don’t make any hasty decisions, but if you and your future partner are on the same page about it and have given it some serious thought, go ahead and pull the plug on a toxic bridal party member.   Explain why you think it’s better if they’re a guest instead of a bridesmaid or groomsman, and make sure you still include them in things along the way to help soften the blow.  Whether they decide to participate going forward is on them. If they’re upset, let them be upset. If it’s best for you and your partner and your wedding experience, it’s the right choice. This too shall pass.

Love, Mrs. Newman

Anniversary Gift Guide

Anniversary Gifts

Traditional Gifts By Year And What Exactly To Buy.

Wedding Anniversary coming up?  Me too!  Actually it’s today, June 1st, AKA the happiest day on Earth.  To me anyways.

Moving on, I love the idea of following traditional anniversary guides, so for the past three years I’ve always tried to work off of what the traditional gift for each is.

It’s fun, and it gives you a good starting point, but some of them are a little weird, at best, and others are just downright hard to apply to modern life (and men).  So, to help a girl out, I’ve made my own list of traditional gifts, along with some real life ideas to ponder.

I must say, however, that you may have to go rogue.  For instance, if your hubby tends to get you lavish gifts, then giving him a bag of candy for your sixth anniversary won’t suffice.  So get him his favorite sweets, but also get him something else.  A tangible gift, or something to do together.  If the  pre-determined gift of the year won’t be enough, add dinner, a couple’s massage or his favorite dessert to the line up.

And also, don’t save lingerie for only years 12 and 13.  Step up your game with some steamy anniversary lovin’ every year, please.  Like a lady.

So without further ado, here’s my Traditional Gift Recap!

Anniversary Gift Guide

First – Paper

Maps. A big world map where you can pinpoint your travels together or smaller framed maps that highlight where you met, live or got married.

Second – Cotton

Linens. Think fun pillow cases, throw pillows with your wedding song lyrics embroidered on, or a personalized throw blanket or quilt.

Third – Leather

Accessories. A leather banded watch, new shoes, a belt. Maybe a new wallet, money clip or passport holder.

Fourth – Fruits or Flowers

Plants, obviously.   Go with floral arrangements similar to your wedding, or if you want something long-lasting, buy a tree or bush to plant at your home.

Fifth – Wood

Pretty Décor. A keepsake box or carved wooden sign with your name or wedding date. Consider any type of housewares they might need, like a bookcase, shelves, or cutting boards.

Sixth – Candy

Sweets! Whatever your hunny’s favorites are, load them up with some sugar.

Seventh – Wool

Clothing or Blankies. Maybe some socks to keep their feet warm after all these years, or a sweater if it fits their tastes. Otherwise try a nice snuggly blanket to cuddle under.

Eighth – Pottery

Plates, Mugs, Dishes.   If not for the kitchen, maybe try a decorative plate or jewelry dish. Add a sweet or sentimental note to make it a little more romantic.

Ninth – Wicker or Willow

Something woven.   A pretty picnic basket set is a perfect gift and turns into a perfect date, too.

Tenth – Tin

Cans. Even if the tin cans hold a different gift altogether, they still fit the bill. New tin coffee cans are good for the java lover, or get creative and turn them into a holder for something else (candy, mints, cigars…)

Eleventh – Steel

Jewelry. Anything stainless steel works, from cufflinks to watches to chains, even keychains or pocketwatches. Lotsa options with this one.

Twelfth – Silk

Linens. Sheets, scarves, maybe some pajamas. My favorite, something silky and sexy, fun lingerie!

Thirteenth – Lace

Lingerie. Yeah. Just lingerie.

Fourteenth – Ivory

Anything Off White. I’m not big into the whole poaching/hunting/killing of animals thing, so I can’t contribute an idea of an actual ivory gift. But it’s a pretty color to go with for house décor, luggage or clothing (lingerie).

Fifteenth – Crystal

Barware. Champagne glasses, tumblers, decanters, wine stoppers. Whatever you get, use to celebrate with and get drunk together.

Twentieth – China

Plates, I guess. But if don’t think new fine china is gonna go over great, look for specialized china, like a monogrammed plate or personalized decorative piece.

Twenty-Fifth – Silver

Jewelry. So, so many options. Engraved watches are one of my favorites, but anything goes. Cufflinks, key-chains, money clips.

Fiftieth – Gold

Tons of Options. Not just jewelry, but pieces for the home, like a clock, frame, globe or décor. Better yet, throw a gold themed anniversary party, because fifty years of marriage is AMAZING.

Love, Mrs. Newman

Living Together 101

Living Together 101

How To Move In Together And Not Hate It.

So, if you’re engaged, or have discussed getting engaged, there’s a decent chance that you either plan on moving in together soon (because test drives are important), you already live together (living in sin, like I did), or you’ll be moving in together as soon as you get hitched (you little angel).

Regardless, if you plan on moving in with your significant other, shits about to change for you.   Living together in the same space is an adjustment, and it can be hard. I mean it’s honestly just like having any other roommate except this one isn’t going anywhere anytime soon.   I bet eternity seems like kind of a long time now, doesn’t it.

Don’t totally panic about moving in together, because honestly, it’s going to be one of the best times in your life. But along with the eternal slumber party, breakfast and dinner dates, and long Sundays of Netflix binging together in bed, you’ll also encounter a few new quirks about your new “roomie”. Like their inability to do dishes, or that they fold all your clothes wrong, or that they leave wet towels on your bed (looking at you babe).

Luckily, moving in together can also be really, really fun.   But it doesn’t hurt to have a few helpful hints to make the transition easier.

My Advice For Living Together

Separate Bathrooms.   I know this isn’t always an option, but if it is, do it. Bathrooms get gross easily, and actually seeing each others grooming techniques isn’t always glamorous. Best to have some secrets in this department, in my opinion.   (Note: There won’t be many secrets along the road of a lengthy marriage, so you also need to be comfortable enough to laugh at each other when anything “gross” pops up…. in sickness and in health, remember?)

Separate Spaces. Also ideal if you can swing it, having your own space will help keep you sane. Whether it’s a man cave for him and an extra bedroom turned dressing room for you, try to have somewhere that is your own domain.   Even if you have a teensy apartment, a recliner for him and window seat for you will give you both a sense of having one place that’s all yours.

Alone Time. Same concept as above, but I’m talking about outside your home. You’re gonna need a breather from each other at some point, so having something that you do regularly on your own will help you keep some of your own identity, independent of your new co-dependent living arrangements.   And if you can schedule it on opposite days, you’ll both benefit from some alone time at home too (full control of the remote, yes please).

Candles.   Matches and candles are a couple’s best friend when you’re acclimating to being in each other’s business all the time. Sorry, but shit happens, literally. And boys can be smelly. Girls too I suppose.   So matches and candles and incense… yeah some of each in ALL bathrooms and any common areas.

Split Chores. I know this one might seem easy enough, but it’s actually worth a conversation. If the two of you can figure out who does what around the house, then its more likely that no one will feel overwhelmed or taken advantage of. Even if it’s not exactly even, if it’s an arrangement that you’ve both agreed works for your household, you’ll be better off. For instance; I do most of the cleaning around the house, but my husband has a list of chores that are completely on him – like vacuuming, taking out the trash, changing light bulbs, plunging toilets, fixing clogs, anything car related, pumping gas or walking the dog at night. Haven’t done a one of those in a few years now.

Two Demands. It probably won’t take long until you find the one or two things that drive you nuts about your partner. Shoes in the middle of the room? Dirty dishes in the sink? Wet f*cking towels on your bed? (Matthew.) And I hate to break it to you, but you probably also have a habit or two that they hate as well.   Make hard rules for these ones. Each pick your one thing that is an absolute no-no, and change your ways. Because, compromise.

Hooks & Hardware. Sometimes its just the littlest things that can drive each other crazy, like clothes all over the floor, or messy junk drawers, or even stacks of mail that get built up into never-ending piles. Whatever little things are bugging you, instead of nagging each other, find simple solutions. Put hooks up anywhere that things get thrown about, or add extra hampers wherever clothes get tossed on the floor. Get compartment organizers or drawer spacers to help keep things neat. Look into hanging up a cute mail holder on your wall. Instead of fighting over it, find organizational solutions that will resolve the problem before it turns into an argument.

Remember that this should be a fun and happy time, so if you stay positive and excited about it, chances are your relationship will stay positive and exciting too. Focus on all the fun parts, and enjoy your new adventure together.

I mean if you plan on marrying or spending your life with someone, then living together is a part of the deal. It’s fun to have your best friend by your side at the end of the day, and even better waking up to their face every morning. Don’t ever forget that!

Love, Mrs. Newman

Happy First Birthday!

MNW First Birthday

…to MNW!

Hi everyone! Exactly one year ago today, on April 7th 2015 I officially incorporated Mrs. Newman’s Weddings LLC, deciding to make this website and my blog my full-time job.

There have been some truly amazing moments (along with some frustrating ones) while I’ve figured out how to become a full-time blogger and my own boss, but it has been an incredible journey so far.

I wouldn’t be able to do this without the support of my husband and my family, so I have to take a quick moment to thank them. I also need to acknowledge my first “fans”… my closest friends and my sisters for almost always sharing my posts and helping me spread the word about what I have going on here at MNW. You’ll never know how much I appreciate it.

Looking back over my first official year, I’ve pulled a few posts from the vault that I’m a little extra proud of, or at least thoroughly enjoyed writing, just for a fun little year-in-review.

Sadie’s Top Five Faves

Best Wedding Day Lipsticks

I’m Sorry You Hate Engagement Photos

Dear Bride On Your Wedding Day

Rules of Engagement

Modern Bridal Parties

 ♥

Lastly, to all my readers and followers (even my haters), your attendance here means everything to me; it’s what keeps me going …literally and figuratively! So thank you!

Sending everyone out there love and positivity! Xoxo!

Love, Sadie Newman

Wedding Night Specialties

Wedding Night Specialties

The Best Ways To End Your Wedding Night!

So I know the main focus of your wedding is centered around the ceremony and reception, but what about the party after the party? I’m talking about the wedding night!

Your wedding night will be the first time on your wedding day where you’ll be truly alone; spending your first night together as a married couple.

I know most of your planning efforts won’t cater much to this part of the evening, but you shouldn’t totally write it off after booking your hotel suite or wedding night room.

I mean, this night is kind of a big deal, so why not put a little extra thought into making it something special? Even if spending the night together isn’t something new for you, it’s still a pretty special occasion. You’re consummating your marriage, which sounds ridiculously old-fashioned, but regardless, it’s true!

I’m hoping you’re excited about banging your new spouse, even if it’s not your first time, which it probably isn’t because I imagine most of my readers went through their slut-phase at some point. (Also, you should test drive the merch before you buy it, in my opinion. Just saying.)

So make some plans! Think about what you want to do when you get back up to your room after the reception.   Yes, you might be spent, but it’s really not that hard to spend at least an hour or so together before crashing for the night (if not more!)

Here are some of my sexy suggestions!

Champagne. Make sure you have a nightcap chilled and ready for you and your hubby to enjoy alone together. It doesn’t have to be champagne, wine or beers or whatever floats your boat. But have one last cocktail together and make a toast to your new life!

Cake. It’s true that some people end up eating next to nothing on their wedding day, so request your caterer box up a nice big slice of cake for you two to have as a bedtime snack before, or during, your real dessert! (wink face)

Snacks. Same sentiment as before, but maybe think about what kind of snacks might be an aphrodisiac, or hold a dual purpose. Think whipped cream, chocolate sauce, strawberries and champagne… whatever you wanna feed each other or lick off your boo’s body.

Sparklers. Steal a sparkler or two from your sparkler send off and light them together on your own up on your hotel room balcony. Doing fun little things like this create a different level of intimacy, setting the mood nicely.

Cigars. This doesn’t just have to be a groomsmen thing, if you both enjoy a nice cigar, unwind from your festivities by celebrating with cigars. Just brush your teeth afterwards and before your jump into bed.

Letters to Yourselves. Similar to asking your guests to leave you an anniversary wish to be opened later in your marriage, write letters to yourself, together or separately, and seal them in envelopes or place them in bottle to open on your anniversary.

Upgrades. Splurge a little on your wedding night accommodations. Get a nice big bed, with a nice big tub, and a nice view or balcony. Maybe even keep it a surprise until the wedding night if you can.

Robes and Slippers. Change out of your fancy wedding clothes and into big comfy robes. Putting on nice, soft, plush robes will help you both relax, and they also provide easy access for later when you’re ready to be wearing nothing.

Lingerie. Even if you don’t have something sweet on underneath your dress, take a few minutes and change into something sexy for your spouse to rib off you (or remove gently, depending on your preferences).

Bubble Baths. Spend the last hour of the best day of your life unwinding in a bubble bath, with candles, and rose petals and soft music …with a happy ending for both of you.

Wedding Gifts. Save your wedding gifts to each other for right before bed. It’s one last thing to look forward to before calling it a day, and being able to open them when it’s just the two of you will be romantic and special.

You only get one wedding night so make it extra special! Closing out the biggest day of your life with your best friend should be memorable, romantic and one of the highlights from your wedding (just maybe keep this one to yourself).

Love, Mrs. Newman

Kissable Lipstick

How To Make Any Lipstick Stay In Place & Last Longer.

One of my most visited and fan favorite posts was when I wrote about what lipsticks a girl could wear to her wedding that A.) would last, and B.) wouldn’t get all over her hubby at the altar.  If you haven’t read it, go here and take a peek for yourself.

But the annoying part about kiss proof lipsticks is the limited selection.  Like, is it really not a priority for us make up slinging ladies to have it actually stay in place if we engage in a little kissie sesh?  I personally live for lipsticks that look amazing AND don’t keep my man from loving on me, and there just aren’t a ton of options.  Though check back frequently, because I’ve made it my personal mission to find all the best ones.  And I shall report back to y’all, obviously.

So, whats make-out make-up queen like myself to do?  Well, I’ve mastered my very own way of applying just about any type and any shade of lipstick in manner that stays in place.  99% of the time anyways.

How you might ask?  Sorcery.

Joking.  It’s actually not terribly hard, as long as you have a few things on hand.  First, a neutral shade of lip liner.  Secondly, tissues.  And lastly, your lipstick.  And I do mean lipSTICK.  Sorry friends, but lipgloss just doesn’t stay on if you’re getting busy.  I’ve tried.

So to start, put the rest of your face on, so you can pick a complimentary color.  Put a little bit of your face makeup or concealer over your lips for a nice neutral base (top left picture).

Next, take your lip liner.  Doesn’t matter what shade of lipstick your using, a neutral color lip liner works perfectly.  I use one that’s about one or two shades darker than my original lips.  You’ll definitely be able to see it over the concealer you have on your lips to begin with.

Outline your lips if you’re happy with the plumpness of your pout, or outline just outside your lip line if you want to make your pucker a teeny bit larger than real life (à la Kylie Jenner but I advise you to start small if you’re going to go outside your own lip line.  Like literally, just barely outside/on top of your natural line.  Or you’ll probably look ridiculous).  See middle left photo.

Once you’re happy with your liner, color it in with your pencil, and blot with a tissue lightly.  Photo on bottom left.

Now you can put your lippy stick on!  Put on a few glorious coats!  Like literally load that baby on.  You’re going to blot most of it off so I promise it’ll look fine when you’re done! Picture on top right!

Now here’s my favorite little trick.  BEFORE we blot off the color, I have a fun little tip that keeps you from getting any lipstick on your teeth (SO not cute).  Take your (clean) finger and give it a nice little suck job.  I swear this works.  Just put your finger in your mouth and suck as you pull it out.  Just once will do, not like in a real life blow jay (sorry mom).  Look at the photo middle right and see how some of my lipstick came off… on my finger.  Not my teeth.  Like a lady.

Now that that’s taken care of, grab your tissues and blot the sh*t out of your lipstick… photo bottom right.  If it gets too light, put on a few more coats, repeat your finger bj, and then blot some more.  When the color you want is good to go, and your tissue is white, you’re done.  Viola!  Make up done and make out ready!IMG_2596

Now I know you might be questioning me, but I just smooched my hubby as he got home from work and nothing got on his perfect little face.  I also have been happily drinking a nice chardonnay-riesling blend and there is literally NO lipstick on my wine glass, a true test for lipstick that stays in place.  Oh, and my lipstick still looks great.

So go ahead, see for yourselves!  Kiss kiss!

Love, Mrs. Newman

 

 

Last Minute Valentine’s Day Gifts

Last Minute Vday Gifts

Because Sometimes It Just Sneaks Up On You.

So it’s basically Valentine’s Day weekend, and you don’t have a gift for your valentine yet.  Whoops!

Even if you do have something in mind, but feel like you need just a little something more, I have the perfect last-minute gifts.  Plus, these are all pretty quick, easy, and inexpensive.

  • Cards.  Easy to get and easy to customize.  Make each card a love note with something special you love about your babe on each one – 52 reminders of why you’re together.
  • Mirror Messages.  Simply use lipstick to leave your hunny a love note on the mirror, or get creative with paper or post it notes and make a heart-shaped collage.  Express all the little things you love about him/her so they can start their day with a smile.
  • Heart Shaped Breakfast.  Use heart-shaped cookie cutters to make toast cut outs, or to fry eggs inside of. If you value your fingertips, use an oven mitt to hold the cookie cutter in place while the egg cooks.  Learned that the hard way last year.
  • Heart Shaped Pizza.  Little heart-shaped pepperoni are sweet, or you can really go all out and shaped the pizza dough into one big heart.  Tip: keep the heart skinny before cooking, it’ll expand and widen as it cooks!  Simpler solution: call around to your local pizzeria, and see which ones will do it for you.
  • Heart Shaped Anything Edible.  They don’t say the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach for nothing.  It’s basically in the bible.  So if you plan on cooking anything for your sweetie this holiday, try your best to make them into heart shapes.  Even if you fail, they’ll think it was a cute attempt, and as long as it isn’t burned too badly, they’ll eat it (speaking from experience here).
  • Box of Favorites.  You probably know your favorite person’s favorite things just as well as they do, so put that knowledge to good use and stock a bag or box with all of their favorite snacks, candies, goodies.. plus anything else that you know they usually buy for themselves when they’re in the mood for a treat.
  • Match Jar.  This one is sweet yet practical.  Fill a small mason jar with matches, and then secure sand paper or the bottom of the matchbox onto the lid.  Decorate the jar itself, or add a little love note or doodle on top.   Perfect for anyone who likes to fish, camp, hunt or hike…. (so not me).
  • DIY Date Jar.  I can elaborate but I just wrote up a post on this, so just go read it here!
  • Coupon Book.  This one is super easy, but also pretty alluring for a guy if you get a little pg-13 with it. Stick with fun sweet treats, like a back rub, cooking dinner, designated driving duty that they can redeem whenever, or up your game and give him tickets to redeem when he wants to… play. ♥
  • Love Note Frame.  This one is extra sweet because it adds a little romance to your home decor that you can use all year long.  Just get any size frame, and then make your own little print out to place in side that reads “I love you because:” and then add a line underneath it.  Pick up dry erase markers and take turns leaving each other little reminders of what you love about each other on the glass.
  • Man Bouquets.  Flowers are sweet, but they aren’t for everyone.  If your valentine would rather a bushel of something else, like say alcohol, candy or snacks, make them a bouquet of that instead!  Use wooden kabob sticks to secure items to, and then gather them and secure at the bottom.  See here or here for an example.
  • Something Lacy.  Sometimes the thing a guy wants to unwrap the most is you.  So go buy something that makes you feel sexy and confident, surprise him with a fun new “outfit”, and let him open the best gift of all.  Note: this gift will probably end up on the floor really quick, so don’t break the bank.  Think lacy, tight, and revealing.
  • Did I Mention Food?  Another easy way to do something nice is to bake or make their favorite dessert.  Whatever they fancy, whether it’s brownies, cookies, cupcakes or chocolate covered strawberries, make it for them and indulge yourselves with a yummy dessert.  Better yet, eat them in bed.

♥ Have fun!

Love, Mrs. Newman

 

Make Your Own Date Jar

Date Jar copy

A Quick And Easy DIY Valentine’s Day Gift!

Even if you don’t need an idea for a sweet treat for your valentine, DIY date jars are a fun and easy project to do any time of year.  In our household we don’t make it more than a few days before we’re stuck on dinner plans or feeling antsy for something fun to do together.

That’s why this year I finally made my own date jar, all set and ready to go with 35 preplanned dates for us to pick from!  (Also, spoiler alert to my husband – yes this is part of your V-day gift.  You’re welcome).

Not only will this stop us from bickering over where to eat or what to do, it’s also a fun excuse to try new things on date night.  I made sure our dates included our staples, but also had a few unique date ideas that I think could be a really good time.

It was incredibly easy to make, the hardest part being the date brainstorming sesh, but with the aid of Pinterest I had 35 categorized dates ready to go in less than 20 minutes.   So first things first, gather the following:IMG_2363

  • Mason Jar
  • Popsicle Sticks
  • Sharpie
  • Stickers
  • Ribbon
  • Hot Glue Gun
  • Scissors

Like I said, the hardest part was actually coming up with the dates, but they came to me quicker than I expected after peeking at a few other blogs and pins.  Make sure you cater your dates to your own personal style.  I included a Star Wars Marathon since we’re both avid fans, but nixed ice skating from our list as public humiliation doesn’t really make for a great date night in my husband’s eyes.

If you aren’t up to creating your own preplanned dates, use mine as a starting point, but try to cater them to yourselves a little bit.

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Organize your list into three categories; cheap/at home, out of the house but still low-key, and fancier-than-usual night outs.   This is where your stickers come into play.  Color code your dates and place different stickers at the top of each popsicle stick so you’ll know how to differentiate your dates when you’re pulling from your date jar.

After this you’re pretty much ready to go, you just need a pretty little mason jar to place your popsicle sticks in.   Luckily I’ve already provided you a tutorial on this, which you can read here or watch here.  To recap; you’ll use your hot glue gun to secure your pretty ribbons around your jar.  Said ribbons will help camouflage your popsicle sticks so that there’s no cheating involved when pulling one out.

date-jarSee, pretty easy.  I got everything at Michael’s, but any craft store works, or even a dollar store probably.   The important part about this gift is to actually use it, and to make sure that you’re actually spending time together doing fun and different things (after all that is what happy couples do, IMO).  And if this jar takes some of the bickering or indecisiveness out of your date nights, then it’s a perfect little gift not only for your partner, but for yourself.

Have fun and enjoy all of your upcoming date nights!  Oh, and Happy Valentine’s Day!

Love, Mrs. Newman

 

 

The Best Sign Of A Healthy Relationship

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Instabrags, TwitPic Pros & Facebook Power Couples.

“The best sign of a healthy relationship is no sign of it online.” I’ve seen this quote a few different times now and I just couldn’t resist putting my feelings on it out there.

To start, I think there are tons of signs more significant than this one that indicate a healthy relationship. I also don’t know that zero presence of your relationship online is, in actuality, a positive thing.

This can go two ways. There certainly are people out there who are quite private, and having no indication of their relationship online just means that they keep their personal affairs to themselves. I’d say that if someone doesn’t have much online to begin with, then no sign of their family and friends makes sense, and henceforth no sign of a relationship does too. It’s getting harder and harder to find these days, but there still are people out there that are resistant to the social norm that everything should be posted online.

On the other hand, if a person is relatively active online then they probably share and post pictures of the people who they are constantly doing different activities with. And if said person does do quite a bit of posting, and you’re in a committed relationship with them, why wouldn’t you be included in those photos?

Well I have a guess as to why. Maybe they don’t want someone to see just how active in their life you are. Doesn’t that sound like a little bit of a red flag to you?

Again, there are varying ways to look at this, and you have to evaluate it on a case-by-case basis. If your relationship is new give your new boyf or gf some time to get comfortable with showing you off to their friends and followers.

You should also be considerate of people who just don’t want to share things that they may feel guarded about or protective of (their feelings towards you perhaps). Not everyone is comfortable with putting things out online, and some people find it even more special when the important things in their life aren’t documented, but spent in the moment and behind closed doors (without a constant camera in their face).

I imagine this line of thinking is where this quote initially comes from. From people who consider intimacy and solid relationships are best formed privately and in the moment. So in this regard, I understand. Totally get that.

But saying no sign of a relationship online is the best and only way to go just isn’t accurate.

Think about the most secure couples that you know of. The ones who you know are in love, have tons of fun together, and genuinely enjoy each other’s company.   Did you judge their relationship by their Facebook, Instagram or Twitter pages?  Uh, probably not.  But now think about their social media pages. Aren’t they probably linked together somehow? At least a little? Mmm, probably yes.

In my experience, couples that are the happiest tend to spend quite a bit of time together, doing and experiencing fun and different things.   They also just genuinely enjoy being together, even if it’s just spending quiet time at home (like in bed, perhaps).

Going back to the notion that us millennials tend to document our entire existence, it only makes sense that people who are in happy, healthy relationships will have some type of record of it online. Who doesn’t want photos of fun vacations, trips or just day-to-day adventures to post, share and look back on?   If you can’t tell by the header image, I myself love to take photos of all the fun times I share with my husband, and I’m certainly not apologetic for it in the least.   But I post those pictures for me – not for you.

As an afterthought, social media is only a perception of what someone’s life is like.

And honestly we’re all aware of the people that over share to an extent, putting every single thing out there for their social media platforms to see (good or bad).   But we shouldn’t judge people or their relationships or their lives simply by their statuses and photos – we really shouldn’t judge them at all.

Social media should a fun and personal way to share, save and commemorate our own individual lives. And for people happily tied down, it’s probably going to include some cute couple selfies and instabrags over fun times spent together.

So I hate to break it to all those out there who think the best sign of a relationship is no sign of it online. Because the real sign of a happy & healthy relationship is in the eyes of the couple themselves – in the way they look at each other and the smiles they put on each other’s faces. Even if it’s in a photo, online.

Love, Mrs. Newman

NewmaChristmas Holiday Photo Shoot

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Because Who Really Wants A Traditional Holiday Photo?

Every year, most couples and families take their annual holiday card photos, and we’re no exception.  This year, we wanted to do something fun and different, so instead of snapping a few cute pictures in front of our tree, we went all out.  Dressed up and ready to go, we blitzed through a few typical “holiday festivities” that happen around our home.  Most of which include alcohol, snacks, or spending money.

It was really fun to put together, and even more fun to shoot.  Lucky for me I have a fun-loving husband who was willing to play along, and now we have whole album worth of pictures that represent our 2015 Christmas:

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If I could wish one thing for everyone out there, it would be to have fun and laugh with your partner everyday.  Hope you enjoy our album, and I wish you all a happy and safe holiday season!

Love, Mrs. Newman